Hello Rabbi,
My grandfather, who lives with us, has advanced Alzheimer’s and is no longer fully aware of his actions. On Shabbat, he turns lights on and off, operates the television, and sometimes asks us to do things that would involve violating Shabbat. We are unsure how to respond — is it permitted to prevent him from doing certain actions? How should we handle his requests that would require us to violate Shabbat?
Hello Rabbi,
Our mother is 92 years old, in a very fragile medical condition, with many underlying illnesses. Recently, the doctors told us that in the event of a systemic collapse, resuscitation would be a very aggressive procedure that might only prolong her suffering. We are struggling greatly with the decision — is it permissible, from a halachic and moral perspective, not to perform CPR in such a case?
My husband is Ashkenazi, and therefore in our home we do not eat rice or other kitniyot.
We agreed with the caregiver that she follows our household rules, meaning there is no chametz at all and she eats from our cooking.
My question is:
May the caregiver cook rice for herself in one of my Pesach pots, which I will designate specifically for cooking rice (we will sort the rice before Pesach)?
Is she allowed to eat the rice using our Pesach dishes, or is it better for her to use disposable dishes, or perhaps I should set aside a separate plate for her?
To stress again: there is no chametz at all in the house, not even in her possession.
Thank you very much.
Hello Rabbi,
My father suffers from dementia and has difficulty moving around. On Shabbat, he is accompanied by a caretaker who drives him in an electric mobility scooter to the synagogue and afterward to our home for the Shabbat meal. At the end of the meal, he returns him to his own home, where he is accustomed to sleeping.
Is it permissible to continue this practice from a halachic standpoint, considering that the scooter is operated by the caretaker (a non-Jew) and that it contributes to my father’s physical and mental well-being?
Thank you very much!
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